Should parents act on conflicts between children?
Should parents teach their children to let their younger brothers and sisters?
First, we must make it clear that the struggle between children is completely normal and will definitely exist.
Because every child is a unique individual, there are too many different factors between children. For example, if some children are active and some are quiet, they may argue over whether to go to a bookstore or an amusement park on weekends.
More importantly, children of different ages have different needs. Chen gave an example of this: his sister was born when his eldest was four years old. During the breastfeeding period, the mother has to sleep with her younger sister; and if the older sister also sleeps with her younger sister, she will be awakened by her younger sister every other night. So, my sister who had to sleep with her mother had to be separated from her mother.
But it is obviously unrealistic to treat every child equally. Some parents will feel that in order to be "fair" to their children, they must be treated "equally". This is not only a misunderstanding, but also completely impossible to achieve.
Parents understand what fairness is, and they might as well teach their children the concept of fairness. As Chen said to his eldest daughter, the results may be surprisingly good.
Because children are not bad in nature, sometimes they just don't turn around. For example, if the elder brother wants to gain the same attention as his younger brother, it is not because he does not love his younger brother, but because he only sees the “inequality” distributed to the younger brother, but ignores the fairness behind it. If you tell your brother that the essence of "letting" is to realize the fairness that your brother deserves, and you are the same as your brother at your younger brother's age, then your brother will be relieved and love your brother even more. This is obviously better than using "big ones to let small ones" prevaricate the past.
A lot of parent choose to use art to distract the kids from conflict. Learn more about why is art important to preschoolers here! Art can calm one’s heart when used correctly. When children can be polite from the heart, this is the success of education. Otherwise, it is just the execution of the command you gave.